[LRUG] Formal Apology - I Love Ruby – evvnt an equal opportunity employer.

[Sleepyfox]

The "Magical Intent" thing in Aanands first linked reference is also known as:

"The meaning of the communication is the response you get",
 or
"The meaning of the message is how it is interpreted"

I have observed this to be a powerful enabler for effective communication.

Fox
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On 16 July 2013 14:51, Aanand Prasad <aanand.prasad at gmail.com> wrote:
> Must say, you're doing a terrible job at this "apology" business.
>
> 1. You don't tell us what you think you did wrong. What _do_ you think you
> did wrong? Word something badly? Make an off-colour joke? Demonstrate total
> ignorance of structural inequalities and the behaviours, attitudes and
> language that reinforces them? Or just trip over a hornet's nest of
> over-sensitive PC thugs?
>
> 2. You tell us you didn't _mean_ to be sexist. This information is
> approximately 0% relevant. Read "Intent is Magic"[1].
>
> 3. You go to great pains to reassure us you're not bad people, declaring "we
> are certainly respectful of gender, nationality and culture" and getting
> various employees to testify to this in the comments. Again: 0% relevant to
> an apology. Stop making this about you.
>
> 4. You ask anyone who is made "upset" or "uncomfortable" by anything you say
> to tell you so, placing the responsibility on others to keep your behaviour
> in check, rather than yourself.
>
> 5. You link on Twitter[2] to a comment on the New Statesman piece which
> calls it a "sensationalist piece of crap". This is unlikely to reassure
> anyone that you feel you did anything wrong.
>
> 6. You comment on the piece yourself with (a) a passive-aggressive
> dictionary definition of "news"[3], (b) this gem[4]:
>
> "One minute you offer humor, the next you're a demon."
>
> Honest question: do you care, at all, about how you're perceived by the
> people you appear to want to hire?
>
> ---
>
> [1]:
> http://www.shakesville.com/2011/12/harmful-communication-part-one-intent.html
> [2]: https://twitter.com/evvnt/status/357115823262928896
> [3]:
> http://www.newstatesman.com/economics/2013/07/women-offered-perks-job-ad#comment-964196339
> [4]:
> http://www.newstatesman.com/economics/2013/07/women-offered-perks-job-ad#comment-964234122
>
> On Tuesday, 16 July 2013 at 12:38, Richard Green wrote:
>
> Dear LRUG
>
> I'd like to formally apologise for the post which has been taken as an
> inappropriate remark. It's intention was one of summer happiness not
> destructive winter blues.
>
> This was a tongue-in-cheek comment, I'm a non-technical founder trying to
> enter the developer community and sorry for any offence caused.
>
> We continue to encourage a fun, safe, open minded  work environment -
> something I'm more than happy to put my name to.
> http://evvnt.com/2013/07/i-love-ruby-an-equal-opportunity-employer/
>
> Wishing you a wonderful day.
>
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